We know a thing or two about purposeful work around here- it’s actually one of our passions and specialties. We help the confused find clarity, the unhappy find joy, the overworked find balance, the lost find purpose. But what I want to share with you today is something that I think you’ll find helpful no matter your circumstance.
We meet A LOT of people who are chasing their dreams- they want to open their own businesses or find purpose working for companies that are doing spectacular things that they’re super passionate about.
Finding your dream job seems a lot like finding your dream partner sometimes. And what I’m going to tell you here is that I think it’s really true.
Our relationship to our job/business is going to be similar to our relationship to our partners, friends, family and self. There is just how you treat yourself and others. How you view the world. What you think your job or partner owes you. What you think your personal role is in the creation of a life you love.
We all bring baggage to significant relationships- and our job is to be kind and healthy humans while working on ourselves, too. In fact, work brings us an amazing opportunity to grow- even at jobs that aren’t meant for us.
The reality is that dream jobs and dream partners also require work. And many times when you leave that job you “didn’t like” and start your business or take that “dream job” you find that you’re just as unhappy as before you left.
So, what does this mean and what can you do?
It’s good to understand a few things:
It’s not your job’s job to make you happy
It’s your job to make yourself happy
Making yourself happy starts with understanding what you’re thinking about your own circumstances and life and people
Happiness NEVER comes from outside circumstances, it always comes from inside of you, specifically from what you’re thinking
You CAN have preferences about your life because it’s your life and knowing that you’re responsible for your happiness and acting upon it CAN bring happiness and fulfilment
You will change as you grow so staying in touch with what truly interests you is the key to not waking up unhappy one day and not knowing how you got there
Listening to the quiet whispers of your heart up front instead of when you're miserable is how you remain connected to your purpose
Knowing more about how you think / approach the world is super important in creating career clarity- it’s hard to decide what to do when we feel overwhelmed or confused or overly-stressed
Understanding that you’re the only one who makes you confused, overwhelmed, sad, angry, unfulfilled and that you and only you can change that will lead to freedom
Making a list of the stuff that makes your heart leap (for instance travel or cooking or helping people or learning languages, etc) is helpful in shaping your career and life
Before you decide that you HATE your job, let’s think through why your job is amazing:
It allows you to pay your bills and create stability in your life
It allows you to work on parts of yourself and grow
There are probably many more that will be particular to you
You CAN love your job and still leave it.
You SHOULD love your job before you leave it.
But I know that it’s scary to leave something you love. And easier to leave something you hate. However, that’s not what you should be doing. You should NEVER choose hate over love. I know that means you’ll experience some sad emotions because you’ll theoretically care about the people you’re leaving. But that’s so much better than decided to hate something in order to justify moving on.
Don’t you think?
ABOUT THIS AUTHOR
Steph Sheldon is Founder of Cleveland Flea. She’s a Coach for those who are interested in crafting a uniquely-them life or business. Cleveland Flea is her business incubator for creatives who sell unique, high-quality items to people they love.
Find her at the Creative Clubhouse (Team Flea’s offices) or on Instagram over at @stephanie_sheldon
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